Während dieser gemeinsamen Woche werden wir jeden Morgen im Council sitzen, jeden Nachmittag eine zeremonielle Solozeit auf dem Land verbringen und am späten Nachmittag und Abend die Geschichten hören, bezeugen und spiegeln, die aus der Natur zurückgebracht wurden. Kurssprache Englisch.

THE PRACTICE OF LIVING AND DYING

Forgiveness, Apology, and Reconciliation

Resentment is like a glass of poison that a man drinks; then he sits down and waits for his enemy to die.

Nelson Mandela

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

Rumi

Imagine you live in a community that has its own “Death Lodge,” a place where a dying person can rest and receive the visitors who come to say goodbye. This is the natural place of “making it good” with your people so you can cleanly move on, and they can let you go in the fullness of completion.

An old hospice teaching says that to complete a relationship five things must be said: “I forgive you”; “you forgive me”; “thank you”; “I love you”; and “goodbye.” This is the sacred work of the Death Lodge.

One of the great challenges we all face in life is to do this work now, when it is most needed, rather than waiting until the last days of our dying. If we don’t keep our relationships current, we risk being weighed down by a lifetime of woundings, angers, and regrets that make it more difficult to surrender to our death, or to the fullness of our life.

Too often we become stuck in the mire of too much memory, or we hide from ourselves in the secret of trying to forget. We risk turning into yet another cycle of anger, vengeance and victimization. In this gathering we will explore together what the four shields of Forgiveness, Apology, and Reconciliation have to teach us about restoring a personal and communal balance that embraces the wounds of the past. Where is it that we are likely to get stuck in the turning of this wheel? And when might we forgive too soon, or apologize too shallowly?

Jewels to be found in these lodges are godlike qualities: mercy, compassion, essential self-respect, and maybe even the grace to forgive the “unforgivable.” If you listen, today more than ever, you can hear a cry for this kind of healing—be it in the lives of individual friends, or in the biggest stories of our time. That cry is calling for each of us to do the wrenching work of self-reflection and personal healing, which evokes the deeper levels of our humanity, offering the possibility of a reconciliation with self and others that is sacred, humbling, and ultimately life-changing.

Our aim is both educational and therapeutic. Educationally, we will see how the wisdom of the modern hospice movement and the ancient, pan-cultural wisdom of indigenous ways and the 4 shields can be interwoven. Therapeutically, time spent alone in nature each afternoon will encourage you to experience the wisdom of your own nature, and your personal truth about forgiveness and apology in your life. In the late afternoon and evening we will sit in council to hear the stories of this solo time, and learn from each other.

Meredith Little

und ihr Mann, Steven Foster, haben 1977 Rites of Passage, Inc. und 1981 The School of Lost Borders gegründet. In diesen Zentren leisteten sie die Pionierarbeit für Verfahren und Wirkungsweisen von pankulturellen Übergangsriten in der Wildnis und von Naturtherapie. Die Essenz ihrer Arbeit ist in vielen Veröffentlichungen, einem preisgekrönten Dokumentarfilm sowie in der von ihnen verfassten Standartliteratur festgehalten (Literaturliste auf Wunsch). Seit Stevens Tod im Jahr 2003 gibt Meredith auf den verschiedenen thematischen Ebenen, vermehrt ihre Erfahrungen zur Arbeit mit Tod und Sterben, mit dem Schatten und mit  Vergebung weiter.

Dieses, für alle offene Seminar, ist zugleich Wahlpflicht-Fachthemenseminar im Rahmen der Ausbildung in Initiatischer Prozessbegleitung und kann als solches auch nachträglich angerechnet werden.